Saturday, October 11, 2008
Say something nice
I have finished reading this book last Friday. Yes, I do read other books too instead of finance. This book I bought from Dr Zaitun who gave us seminar regarding Stress Management. Instead of being a good teacher and counselor on how to deal with stress and anger, she taught us about good foods too! The best parts were her hypnosis and reverse psychology.
This book is actually focusing more on marriage. Yes, on how to maintain a marriage. But I managed to read it till the last page because instead of maintaining marriage, this book also teaches us how to be a better person before we hope people around us to be perfect.
Usually we are tending to find perfection in others but we have forgotten about ourselves. Are we good enough? We often think we are perfect and others are not. This will lead us to selfishness instead of being rational.
Say something nice. Describe everything. Why do we find it's hard to say something nice to others? It's because we don't appreciate them. Why we don't appreciate them? It's because we don't appreciate ourselves. Why we don't appreciate ourselves? It's because we don't even say something nice to ourselves! Simple isn't it? But some of us have a hard time to do this simple thing.
When we say something nice to other, we feel that the person doesn't deserve. When someone says something nice to us, we often think the person is being ridiculous and kisses our ass. These negative pictures always haunted us and prevent us from being nice or even say something nice to others.
Why is it so difficult to say "Hey, you look great today!" to our colleague? Why is it so difficult to say "You are a great mom and I love you so much!" to your lovely mom? We become shy to say good things out but we don't feel so to say harsh words out when we are mad. Weird isn't it? So do you want to be that weird alien instead of well accepted human being? Think.
Again, before you want your husband, wife, kids, family, colleagues and friends to say something nice to you or be nice to you, do your part. Yes, some of you know that I believe in karma. What goes around comes around.
Have a great weekend guys!