Around 10am, I went to clinic with mom – the clinic which is listed in my favorite list Penawar Clinic. It’s one of panel clinics for Inland Revenue Board. Doctor was surprise with the ulcer size. Mom was sick too for 2 days since she came back from
I didn’t plan to write anything actually at this time… until I watched Oprah on TV [episode 22]. I should say that I'm sick with Oprah sometimes with too many craps about superstar’s life and some funny stories – enough said. This time it was different. The show was about a family who lost a son/elder brother caused by cancer. Yes, I hate cancer as well and even a doctor couldn’t trace it at early stage. I talked to a doctor in town who was also sad of losing some friends caused by cancer and when they knew, it was just too late. Ok, back to the topic, this family just couldn’t accept the incident – Jake is dead. They still prepared meals and bed for him. The parent could live with that, even Jake’s little brother Lincoln. So, Oprah sent Peter Walsh and his friend to help them. What Peter did was throw away all Jake’s things. Not all, but they have to do some decisions. They brought all Jake’s things including clothes, toys and books out of the house… put them on the lawn. They made 3 columns; throw, keep and chest. So, they had to decide which things belong to those columns. Throw – they need to choose those things that could make them sad or cry. Keep – those things that can make them think of the happy moment with him. Chest – things that they wanted to keep for respecting Jake. It was a tough decision and honestly I had watery eyes. We tend to keep so many things of our love ones when they’re gone… hoping that the memory remains and never dies. Yes, it works… but for good or bad? I don’t mean about nasty bad but in other word… sad. The psychiatrist who joined the show said “Life goes on, don’t hold back”. When we keep the things… we hope the thing can make us feel like we still have him/her in object-form – which it never work and will haunt and keep us in sorrow forever. Jake’s family has been living in this sorrow since 2001 until Oprah helped them in 2007. The effect was not only on the parent but also on Jake’s brother, Lincoln. They managed to change the bedroom into a nice office and some pictures of Jake hanging on the wall. Yes, new environment help and they are happy now – to live in only-happy-memories of Jake. I was touched and learned new thing.
What do you think?